Welcome back. To the new monthly newsletter format.
To get it out of the way ASAP.
I want to go more in-depth with a few specific topics. It takes time to write a long, high-quality article and doing it every week is just not possible with the daily job and all.
If you liked the four short articles a month format. Shame. I noticed that brief newsletters are too easy to consume.
I've been reading productivity and self-improvement stuff for years now, and I noticed that short articles just scratch the surface of the topic. They give you the sense that you learned something, but you actually didn't. It would be kind of ironic for me to stick with the short format after this realisation.
But I don't have the time and attention to read long stuff.
Well, time is your problem. Attention is on me. If I make the first few short paragraphs interesting enough, you'll keep reading, no worries. Otherwise, I failed.
The whole point of this newsletter is to teach you something and to convince you to move your ass a little bit. Not just consume. You can use social media for mindless consumption.
Alright, so how will I keep you entertained this time? We'll cover a few different but in my opinion slightly unconventional topics:
Hell yes. I had plenty of days like this:
where creativity was sparking all over the place.
I mentioned briefly in the last newsletter that I needed a break from all this forced weekly creativity. I had to force myself to write a newsletter each week. Which was the total opposite of what the newsletter was supposed to be. A channel I use to share my learnings and ideas. Yet it became a source of stress.
I was neck-deep into the process and I forgot what the whole point of my writing was. Then I was one day in the tea house doing my usual writing and complained to the waiter that I have a bit of creative block. The waiter pointed out the obvious: "Well, how about a break and things will come naturally."
At that moment, I was like "crap" I have to stop, pause and reflect.
The rabbit hole I got caught in was a prime example of a situation where we are a bit overworked, tired and stressed, and we switch to autopilot and just keep pushing and pushing. As you may have noticed, I took a break.
In the first month with zero obligations besides work, I closed the rest of the open projects and made sure that my free time was actually free.
Then in August, I started cleaning all the piles of ideas that were all over the place. I didn't force myself, but I just gave my mind permission to wander (which you should absolutely do from time to time). Reading self-development books instead of short articles helped a lot in coming up with new ideas.
Then September came, and it was time to start working on a few new ideas (like this newsletter and the next, the company set up, daily experiments, vacations, ...).
Take a break if you're stuck.
As obvious as it is, we tend to forget about simple approaches and try to overcomplicate things. Or maybe that's just me.
Since our last newsletter in June, I vowed not to open any new projects. I closed a few projects and significantly simplified my digital world. Why?
I noticed that things started slipping out of my control. Which is a no-no for a control freak like me.
Sure I've come up with a lot of new ideas, but this time I didn't immediately start working on them. I stored them into the Idea Brewery. Idea brewery is part of my new system to manage the creative mess and project order:
The basic idea is that we have a folder on the PC for all the ideas, maybe to-read articles, books, ... The rest of the projects/folders we have on the PC are projects we are working on.
This way, the creative mess is localised to one place on our computer. Everywhere else we have military order. That's it. More details on the above system will be covered in the upcoming November newsletter.
So what happened besides that?
But enough of my bragging. There are two things that I came up with that might be useful for you:
A large part of my 3-month creative break (besides work and sleep), were daily experiments. I'm not talking about the kids' stuff we discussed in the past but a bit more hardcore experiments. I'm talking about systematically running several experiments a day. Change that, change that, ...
The process is actually quite simple. At the end of the day, you just go through your day and think about what you did differently today than usually and write it down:
Pretty soon you'll see that you don't have to force yourself to try new stuff, but instead that you are thrilled of the idea of trying something new.
Then once you get into the habit of tracking what you tried, you should start pushing out of the comfort zone. Come up with a completely new schedule for an otherwise boring day.
A prime example are the changes I made to an otherwise regular workday. In the past my Tuesday (or any other workday) would look something like this:
The highlight of the day was lunch with colleagues ...
Amm hell no?? Time to get off the hamster wheel.
So I tried:
Yup, that was just another Tuesday. Try to engineer a crazy day like this every now and then.
OK, it's a lot, but except for the work (which I absolutely enjoy) the rest of the activities were for pure pleasure. To fill up my batteries through running, reading and writing. I'll admit that such a tempo isn't sustainable for each day, but once a week? Sign me up.
But why would you be systematic about changes? We don't need a system for every damn thing. Well, if you're a really spontaneous person (which I'm not, if that's not obvious by now) sure, you don't need a system. If you're a bit like me and you stay in the comfort zone if you can, then consider planning the changes and venture out to the unknown world. There are things beyond your couch. Who knew 🙂
The whole point of this process is to figure out what you like and what you don't like. Then keep hammering down that process over and over again. Suddenly you'll end up with routines, habits, obligations, ... you like and a long list of things you don't like. A not-to-do list is as crucial as a to-do one 😉
Just change something every day.
That sounds way too easy. Well, it is. After all, simple stuff usually works. But the tricky part about small changes is that you don't see progress right away. You keep chipping and chipping away, then in two, three weeks or a month you start seeing substantial progress.
If you need ideas about what to change, Google is your friend. If what you primarily need are changes in the productivity/time management sector, check the Make Time book. Written by two ex-google executives, it's an absolute treasure full of ideas. I wish every book I've read was written so well.
So if you decide to dive into Daily experiments, create an excel/numbers table with rows for:
If you're feeling adventurous, you can also add a daily highlight. The idea behind daily highlight is basically that you write down what you're looking forward to in each day. What gives you goosebumps when you think about it? Or what activities you can't wait to attend. What energises you and makes you happy.
A slightly harder thing is habit formation. When we want to experiment with something for more than one day.
If you've been reading my newsletter for a while, you know that I had some trouble with shifting my sleep schedule. But I kept digging, and I came across a new approach.
For me, the whole point of the early morning is to do something that gets me energised for the day. This way, whatever happens throughout the day I at least started "well".
Early mornings are something you can control in your life. You will rarely find peace outside the time when the rest of the world (OK, your part of the world) is asleep. Nobody expects you to answer your email/phone at 4:00 in the morning. If they do, change your boss/spouse or whoever bugs you.
Mornings can be one consistent, calm thing in our hectic lives. Yet somehow I forgot why I used to wake as early as 4:00.
So how did I switch back to 6:00 - 22:00? I came across Hal Elrod's book The Miracle Morning. Despite its cheesy title and promises that the book makes there's some wisdom in it.
Hal talks a lot about affirmations, meditation, doing something for yourself in the morning, ... But the eye-opener for me was how he described the habit formation process.
According to him, every habit formation has three phases:
The whole process works. Tested. You solider through pain and voila you have a new habit. Tried it on my sleep schedule:
I wrote down what I noticed when I followed the process:
On 18.9., I finished my 30-day sleep shift. Calm mornings before work are a game-changer. OK, I'm just practising them again 🙂
So now you have two more hours in the morning ... What to do? Emails?
"Pro" tip: if you want to spend your morning drafting emails, responses to messages, ... that require deep work, don't send them out before 9 or 10. Write the drafts and send out everything at once. Otherwise, other early birds will "jam" back your inbox.
So what can you do if early emails are not your thing? Well, the thrill of writing emails doesn't get me out of bed, but the idea of morning walk, morning reading or morning writing does.
Once the new habit sets in, you can monitor your progress week-in, week-out with a simple habit tracker. No software needed:
Up till now, we talked about productivity stuff. But what about life?
No matter what you do and what your life looks like you occasionally get busy and skip "me" time. Or you do "me" time, but you just park yourself in front of the electrical fence (TV) and then fell crappy afterwards. If TV supercharges you and you're fulfilled after that, then keep doing it. If not, try to change.
We most probably won't have a meaningful time off if we don't plan it in advance. At the end of the day, our willpower and batteries are usually depleted, and we take comfort in the pleasure that requires the least amount of physical and mental effort.
You guessed it, I have a system for that too 😂 Daily vacations. I know, I know, bare with me.
Did you ever finish your day and thought: "Shit, I was busy and active all the time, but what did I actually do?" Yup, we too often pick a task, and before we blink twice, we are on autopilot of our own life.
We go to work, eat, go home, sleep, shit, f... Then repeat. You get the point.
Nope, not for me. So what to do? We take time and pick a highlight for each day. We do something tiny each day that energises us.
If you're a normal non-workaholic person (not a workaholic like I am), you're thinking: I'm doing this already. Favourite TV show, afternoon/morning short hike to a smaller hill, fill the blank, ... If you're already practising this, consider taking your breaks to the next level.
The "mini-vacations" don't have to happen only in the morning. Do more than one each day. The sky is the limit. Though an afternoon trip to ISS is not yet on the table. Sadly 🙁
I like to travel, but I have trouble getting out of my shell. So I rather stay home, read, write, and work in my comfort zone. This systematic daily vacation stuff is an attempt against my workaholism.
If it wasn't apparent till now, I'm not into productivity/self-development just for the sake of getting more done but to spend as little as possible on "work" and spend the rest of the day doing things I enjoy.
One example is the day I mentioned above with morning writing, food market visit, run around a lake in the mountainside. Why are days like these important? Besides the obvious that they do something for our mental sanity?
They are an audition for the future where I'm enjoying the freedom of time, place and money. Such days are a test if I really want the life where I have the freedom to wake-up in the morning and book a ticket to New Zeeland for two weeks. Or better yet do a sleepover in London to see the latest James Bond premier.
The point is I'm testing how the life that I aspire to live feels like. Is it worth working towards it?
For now, I would say yes. I mean, I've been working towards:
Life where I do research, travel, work and bankroll the whole thing with an online business.
OK, I still need to make my first online dime, but I'm marching in the right direction (I think).
You probably also have a dream. Are you living it? Or are you just daydreaming about it? Truth be told, wishful thinking alone doesn't get us to any of our goals. Action does.
But how do we march towards what we aspire every day and not loose fate on the journey? We need to treat ourselves daily.
Yup, to me the idea of 24 days of vacation a year and retirement at 70 as the only downtime doesn't sound too appealing. So I'm working to change that. What about you?
That's it 🙂 Enough of my "wisdom" for this month.
See you in the next Monthly experiment in November.